I‘ve seen one article this week saying not to keep a bra for more than a year and another saying no more than six months. If that isn’t the dumbest capitalist bullshit I’ve ever heard…

Also: healthcare providers shouldn’t have to know that their patient has a history of an eating disorder in order to be more careful with how they talk about weight/diet/etc. That should just be their standard of care.

It’s just wild how much harmful shit healthcare providers perpetuate in the name of “health.” I still think about my old gynecologist telling me, when I had gained a bit of weight (moreso in my senior year of high school than freshman year of college), that I needed to be more careful about the “freshman 15.”

I weighed right in the middle (actually slightly on the lower end) of the BMI range for my height (not that BMI is even an accurate measure of health). And I had gained weight as a result of my mental health improving in addition to (lmao @ my gyno) starting birth control for my endometriosis.

I gained weight because I was healthier. But so many doctors just see anyone who’s not underweight gaining weight as inherently unhealthy and it’s so incredibly fucked up.

zanabism:

zanabism:
i believe everybody (I really do) when they say Harry Potter is a good book & that the series is really good but like THEORETICALLY … if I didn’t believe you that it was good…could you blame me??
like could you fuckg fblame me? Do you cfuckomg see this?
“Hmmmm. And what did churchy stand up for again???? Gerbils???? Geraniums?”

Oh that’s right!! Genocide!! It was genocide of brown people ((((:
She is so fuckkg dumbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbb dude I want to fight her ancient face so badly

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missbexiee:

voidbat:
inkskinned:
when i was younger the way i felt about girls kissing was different. it made me uncomfortable, like i knew i shouldn’t hear my own heart skip. i remember watching boys kiss girls on tv and teaching myself “this is all i have”. i’m 24 and i still feel guilty when i think about how much i like girls. i hid it and hated it and i’m not even out to half of my friends. i couldn’t figure out why i felt certain things. i wrecked myself over it, made it hard for me to be in longterm relationships, made it hard to love without feeling like i’m doing the wrong thing.
but yesterday i was teaching a group of second graders.
“i think i want a girlfriend,” she said to me. when a boy squawked “a girlfriend!” the other kids stood up for her instantly. “it’s normal!” “it’s okay if some people want different things.” “yeah, not everybody needs to like boys.”
the boy shook his head and stared at me. “i don’t care it’s a girl” he said, with his hands in the air, “but we don’t even pay taxes, how is she thinking of getting married?”
“miss raquel,” she asked, “why does it look like you’re crying?”
::whispers “we don’t even pay
taxes” to self::
I had a little girl the other day ask me to draw her a princess… I did and she gleamed and said, “I love her I want to marry her!” Her mother looked over and said, “you two would look adorable together,” and I’m honestly just so happy and it warms my heart how open-minded the next generation of children are. Parents are slaying these days.

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yarrayora:

ayearofdan:
Actually, on the subject of age, let me throw a quick little PSA your way. Kids don’t lie to adults about your age on the internet. Please. Let adults live in their comfort zones. I know we often hear it the other way around, which is also not okay, but last night I found out a girl I’d been speaking to who said she was mid twenties was actually sixteen. It just… it makes me feel uncomfortable. Please respect adults and what they want. Please don’t lie so that you can engage with them. It’s not cool. That’s all. Thanks.
#also it makes it difficult for adults to be responsible #an adult is going to talk differently to another adult than they are to a kid or teenager #just don’t lie to people????

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geekandmisandry:

smitethepatriarchy:
bpdcalvinfischoeder:
zakbaganses:
jazzisback:
sauvamente:
Okay but how is this our problem? What’s the context?
Thank you, like what does this have to do with me? I’m supposed to be considerate of what here, a lack of socialization?
You’re supposed to be aware that some people were raised to be tolerated and that transfers into their adult life. Always being alone as a child doesn’t help you grow into a social adult. It leads you to be friends with people you believe are your friends but are only tolerating you. It leads you to believe that the people who love you and are around you are only tolerating you because you’re around. It feels scary to ask people for anything because you’re afraid they’ll give you what you want only to get you away from them. It makes you feel unlovable, unsocial, and intolerable to the people you love and should know, love you.
This is also something that tends to happen to children of resentment; kids who were born to parents who had kids because they were expected to, or any other reason besides wanting kids unconditionally.
It’s a very lonely, loveless childhood. It’s a childhood full of you trying to tell your parents about problems and they brush you off, or wanting to talk about something you like and you get “thats nice honey but could you -insert excuse to get you away from them-”
You constantly second guess peoples motives. You don’t believe anyone could genuinely want to help you. You see yourself as a bother. You don’t trust people when they do nice things for you because you think theyre just trying to placate you and make you go away. Everyone is only doing nice things for you to be polite, not because theyre a nice person or they care about you.
And usually this kind of childhood is accompanied by emotional abuse. Your parents tolerate you, but they would really rather you not be around. And kids aren’t stupid. They know. And it hurts them. It hurt me so much.

You grow up believing no one would ever actually love you.
Some people really just don’t give a fuck about anyone but themselves to the point that they get offended when you ask them to be aware that many individuals had shitty childhoods.
“Just remember some people-”
“Um, fkn, wot???”